Admittedly, after shifting my career into guiding tourists in the Philippines, I feared that I might have the worst behavior when I will be with difficult people, most especially to my clients – the tourists. Although we were trained, but not fully about personality wise, the psychological effect towards dealing with different people is beyond my control. I sure was not well-equipped with emotions in knowing and understanding each person’s behavior, character and attitude.
This kind of training is not adaptable mainly by theories, but by daily experiences with different people I meet along the way, may it be from local people I work with or with the guests I’m guiding. Each day, delivers unique situation regardless of its location.
It was at first difficult on my part, I have to understand and most of all be flexible to the people’s needs. I feed myself with the idea that I am a mediator of this life, thus, I need to be adaptable. But, that being said, I did not push myself to become as one, instead, I embraced each moment in order for me to learn what and how does an adaptable person mean. Unconsciously, this kind of attitude just sets me to who I am today, it turns out that I am capable of being who I want to be.
How did I become myself when with difficult people?
LISTEN, be willing to Listen
Listening to the people I work with is the first thing I could advise. When I learned the difference between hearing and listening, I then knew how to open widely my ears that can hear and most importantly, my mind & heart that could understand the importance of listening. I keep on hearing about the difference of this, but never have I taken seriously for work. This time, with the numerous situations I encountered,even in a very small detail, I mastered to shelter myself the importance of listening and the willingness to understand it each time.
For instance, there are clients or guests who talk a lot and are as well, a vigorous researcher for the places they wanted to visit, a tour guide should be mindful of this, with this situation, it can make you feel as if they don’t really want you to guide them, tendency is, the clients who murmur or talk a lot can sometimes lead to various complaints and worst is, more arguments. This is where I am more sensitive in a positive way, I listen very carefully the clients so I would be able to know how to satisfy them fully of their needs and wants. For me, interrupting them would just mean disrespecting them, I learned the hard way to just hear every words the clients will say, and just talk whenever they give you the time to speak, which is the best time to share what I can suggest and what options should be taken.
It wasn’t an easy journey, but it molds me daily as a person tohave that kind of heart – A heart that knows how to connect with the mind and the ears.
Learn to Compromise
Compromise, according to google is an agreement or settlement of a dispute that is reached by each side making concessions.
I first started to work at an early age, “to compromise” became a good practice for work and reasonable observation came in. I managed to make it as a habit, it was a practice that grew positively on my part, but, when I work outside my field – as a tour guide, things changed more for a better “me” because of the experience that I learned.
I somehow struggled to compose myself on how to compromise when I serviced my 20th client. It was in the middle of nowhere in the south of Palawan, I simply had a hard time compromising with the family, they complain a lot even just for a cup of coffee. Small things that can be handled so well, it was devastating to them. I, on the other side, lost my patience, and felt that my self-esteem, self-confidence had lost its way. On our third day, while preparing myself on an early morning call time, I got distracted by the way they reacted to all of us who works for them, hated the way the service that was given to them from all us, called me a very “hard” person . I could not think so well, on how should I manage the way they acted, I argued, I shouted the same time they shouted at me. I came to realize while they shouted with their forefingers pointed near my eyes, that I should just keep myself shut about all these things. It was the worst argument I ever had in my life. I shuddered, unyielding for a couple of minutes as it will save my nerve racking hatred at that moment. Until they calm down, it was then that I composed myself, compromised and negotiated very well for what should we need to do next. The last conversation was an agreement of not having any choice on their part. I politely gave them a couple of options, after which, they cite their own option and needs. We collaborated together with the people we worked with. Compromise, not only getting involve on one side, but should be taken by both sides. As a tour guide, worst argument can lead to nothing without a tour guide’s immediate understanding.
Be Patient. Period.
One thing that I gained from my trainer Carmel was to never forget how to be patient. During my 8 days training, I observed how being patient can be tested daily, most especially with very difficult guests. Sure enough, that being patient is not only for work, but also in our everyday life, but, considering that you will face and meet people from different cultures is absolutely contrasting. Patience is truly an armor for us tour guides from the beginning of the journey of the guests until the time they departed from this country. At first meeting, orientation serves a good start up to know more of the new guests. Those first few days, I call it as my observation days and making sure I supplied them with full information. However, the attitude is by far distinctly, you need to observe, I normally ask various questions which can actually help me knowing them more. Through this, my patience should be intact from day 1. I stamped my mind, that client’s satisfaction is the main purpose of what I am doing, there might be massive torn of situations, nevertheless, patience should be prioritized to remain intact. So be Patient… PERIOD… regardless of the what ifs, what should have been or what might be.
To summarize the life of a tour guide, the behavior of a tour guide is vital in all aspects and situation to the world of tourism.
P.S. Thank you to my Trainer Carmel for sharing her experiences too. You Rock!
Author: Ferna Mae
Ferna is a Filipino who is independent in her own skin. Enjoys traveling solo yet loves to travel with friends and family too. She first traveled her country the Philippines before she embarked to other countries. She believes that by traveling, her undying crave for learning excites her in a more profound way. Her flexibility had proven her that time is genuine. She supports Eco Tourism, thus, she believes her generosity to share her tour guiding and travel experiences will give value to the aspiring travelers. Connect with her at firstname.lastname@example.org,